My private true love's formula:
True Love = free individuality + challenges + wild passion + trustment + your-two-secret language (mutual dreams + doing crazy things + making each other laugh) + deep mutual respect + a wish of taking care.
Free individuality. That's about those who are absolutely free, have their own aims, dreams and ardours, don't depend on each other, don't dissolve in their love, but are mutually complementary. They both have interests, some of them are completely different, some are the same, but they are interested in everything what is important for their beloved. They share their likings and they always have something new what they can and, no less important, what they DO WANT to tell each other. You definitely know the feeling "WOW, this is soo great, can't wait to tell him/her about it". That's how we send cool links thinking "He/She HAS to see it!!!!"
"Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them".
Challenges. Love needs challenges. I don't believe there was a true love that didn't need to overcome somet. They can be even imaginary or just in somebody's mind, it doesn't matter. The only thing is important: both of people should take a chellenge. They need to get their love in reward, not as having found on the ground easily. People should be dare and risque, ready to sacrifice something (usually it's about their security and usual way of life). But doing this or that thing anybody should never forget: all the things we're doing are only OUR choice. The most pitiful is to say "I've spent my best years on you, and what did you do for me???" Why the hell people always try to place the blame for their actions on somebody else??? Nobody should do anything in response. "Love is when your happiness is the happiness of your beloved, that will make HIM happy. And he will give you your happiness, just because it's the same for him and he wants to see you happy".
Wild passion. I suppose this component doesn't need any explanations. It's all about fireworks and sparkles, butterflies and hurricanes, tsunami and lightenings. It's natural. It is precisely the component that explains why we have the Love as a result. Because without it we'd get the formula of True Friendship.
Trustment. Trustment is the most natural thing. It's the easiest and the most complicated thing at the same time. I never could explain how it works. Sometimes I trust people from the first moment I see them, sometimes I rationally understand that I can trust them after a while. Sometimes I change my mind and sometimes people really do a lot for me but still I can't trust them. At the same time I definitely know there is the only person I can trust 100% and her name is Myself (theory and practice never went hand by hand in my life). But there is one more about-me-fact, good or bad, that I know for sure: trustment is always included in my love at the first sight.
“We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy” (c) FB AM
Your-two-secret language. True love always has the things that have sense only for you two. And noone in the world will smile at something that makes you laugh until one cries. Everybody knows that indescribable delight to get the you-only-know-the-meaning-wink. Having these secrets, you feel special, cause you know something the others don't. Conspiracy has always tied people. I can only imagine how strong Bonnie&Clyde's love was.
Mutual dreams, doing crazy things, making each other laugh.
I'm appreciate the thought of living now-and-here. But my life will stop when I stop dreaming. Dreams are something magical, mysterious, enigmatic and, what's the most important, inspiring. They inspire us to develop, never give up and to go forward. They give us the strength and iron will to overcome impossible. They make us happy. And mutual dreams are just two times stronger
Doing crazy things is obvious. We begin doing something insane together as soon as we fall in love. But what is more important that crazy ideas always inspire the other. They can't be controlled or planned. They are always spontaneous and come from subconscious, and only if people have that very special in-love-connection that many scientists have registered but could never explain, they will be absofuckinglutely natural and genious for you. Swimming in the fountains or creating the spaceship for going to Mars - whatever. But It's extremely important to understand if you like the idea or it's just so-called-blind-love. If you have the true connection, you'll be inspired by the idea.
And the last. Your beloved should be the one who can make you laugh
Deep mutual respect. Love can't exist without deep and strong mutual respect.
Taking care. Just a wish to take care. And then getting pleasure of doing it. Honestly, I'm very selfish. And when I really want to take care of somebody, I realise that I love this person.
WARNING! This component has nothing in common with the feeling of private property. It's very important not to cross the border of your beloved's freedom, because most of us can easily remember that irritating absolutely awful mothers' care when they called us 4-5 times an hour to know when we were going home.
After all, having reread everything above, I've just understood one thing : distances were created for true love.
And the very last. Anybody doesn't owe you anything. And will never owe.